Take pride in having done the right thing

Q: We are school mates.

I like him and when he told me he loved me, I laughed.

Recently we arranged to meet. He said he would wait until I turned up. The problem is he never came.

I was upset. I called him but I didn’t give my name. When I asked him why, he just kept quiet. I think his father scolded him.

He didn’t talk to me after that.

Now his friends kept asking whether it was me who called him and why I didn’t reveal my identity. I said I don’t know.

I am feeling guilty.

I don’t know why I am afraid to tell the truth.

I really don’t want him to humiliate me in front of his friends.

Guilty

A: Please just calm down. You are making a mountain out of a molehill.

It is like this, isn’t it? You were stood up by him and you call him to get an explanation. While you did not reveal your name, you also did not get a response.

I am wondering why you can’t give the poor chap a chance to explain and clear the matter up once and for all.

What you are doing is judging and condemning him based on hearsay.

You even blame yourself for causing him to be scolded by his father. How can you do that? He never told you of any restrictions imposed on him by his father. Indeed there’s no cause for any further self-recriminations.

In order for you to feel better, find an opportunity to speak privately to him.

After that it’s up to him whether he wishes to continue to be friends. You have done your part to get things right between you.

Take pride in having done what is right. Bear in mind also this is just between the two of you and does not involve anyone else.