13th June, 2012
THE FIRST three months of her pregnancy she dare not disclose the good news, even if people are literally breathing down her neck. Because of popular belief that babies at that earlier stage of development can be exceptionally touchy, she hangs on to it like dear life. It is said that if more people know, it could lead to miscarriage.
Whether the baby is truly that vulnerable, we can never be sure. But the truth is probably we are more terrified instead about our destiny being touchy.
We all have experienced this, haven’t we? Because we are happy and can’t wait to share and so, we tell some people. Unexpectedly after making known that particular piece of good news or plan, it fell flat and did not come to fruition. And then we regret for letting people know.
Gradually we learn to shut our mouths. We learn not to mention it to anyone about what have not reached our hands.
Either good or not so good plans, we should not tell. And especially if the plan falls more on the good side.
After we have declared our intention, letting more people who are not directly connected to the business at hand know about it, who would then guarantee the unforeseen would not occur?
Are we not worried about destiny having a knack to reprimand us for being such big mouths?
Say, we are prepared to marry some wealthy bachelors in the city. Even though we are so elated, it’s better we keep our lips sealed at least until the wedding. We must know no such risk is worth taking.
Just negotiating a huge business deal and about to wind it up. Even though we are 100 per cent confident it will be in our favour, still it’s safer not to discuss it with anyone.
We are certain we will make a name for ourselves in the not so distant future. But still, it’s wiser to remain silent until such time when everything is confirmed and in black and white. We would then give these people a surprise.
What’s wrong with a delayed showing- off? Or a belated thanksgiving or promotion party?
If some unresolved issues or the unexpected should crop up, we should worry more that even the chance for showing- off will come to naught.
A promotion, increment, about to become famous …for this sort of good things in life, we really ought not to announce to the world.
Only those people who love us will genuinely share our happiness.
To let the rest of the people know later does not mean we owe them.
For what has not been achieved and yet we go around telling people, they would think that we are just plain showing-off.
What more for those who are jealous of us and those who have long wished for our downfall. No way that we could know whether they would be so mean as to cast a spell or curse on our plans or wish us total failure altogether.
For our own good we keep the good news to ourselves.
Even if they ask, we don’t have to tell. Just don’t tell or never tell. When we don’t say something, it doesn’t mean we lie. The same way when a woman does not tell her age. She has not lied. It’s just that she feels there is no need for more people to know.
Being age conscious as some people are bound to be, she might lose some friends. But she has to realize that such friends aren’t true friends after all. It’s time to avoid them.
If we should make known our little plans, the end result is either destiny is touchy or who would return to us a failed good plan?
Love, perhaps is something worth taking a risk for, but not a piece of good news.