27th May, 2012
Q: I can’t talk with people I am unfamiliar with.
My friends find it very easy to just chat with strangers, while I avoid looking at them. I keep my head bowed most of the time.
I know it’s because I am shy and self-conscious. But why can’t I have the courage to lift up my head and start talking in the proper manner?
I am trying very hard to improve but don’t seem to make any headway. To make matters worse my friends always tease me.
They say I am a coward and of course, I am not.
A: But you do have friends. Can you talk to them? It seems to me that you can.
Try to do the same with new people you meet.
Shy individuals normally have difficulty relating to others.
Since you know that there is a problem and see that it does not help to be self-conscious, you are already half way in solving your problem. You have made a start to overcome it by understanding where your difficulty lies.
The reason why we could talk to some people is that there are interests we can share with them and them, with us. Other than that we also have questions to ask them and vice versa.
What you need do is to identify the people who like to do things you enjoy. If you are able to concentrate on certain activities together, you will gain confidence to share thoughts and ideas.
Then you can meet and make new friends with your head held high. In your case, in no time at all. Be natural. Be yourself