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29th August, 2010
Q: My boyfriend of eight months has been bugging me to tell my parents about our relationship.
He says I should do that to avoid any problems that we may face with them in the future and more so, if my parents know I have a boyfriend, they will not look for another guy for me.
Although I fear my parents may find someone better than my boyfriend, I dare not tell them about us.
I am afraid that if they find out, I can’t make them agree with my choice. What will happen if they start comparing the two?
I am 22 and my boyfriend is 28.
Worrier
A: There is no reason for your parents to object to this relationship, if you really like the guy and there is nothing wrong with him.
The thing is if you are happy with the guy you would want to share the good news.
Now, if you prefer not to introduce him to your parents straightaway, you could tell your mum a few things about the guy first.
She will want to know if he is holding a good job and how well he treats you.
The important thing is to prepare her to be receptive to the idea that he is the guy for you. With that she will pave the way with your dad.
At the same time also prepare your guy by letting him know a few things that please your folks.
Be open. There is nothing to be afraid or ashamed of. Work step by step towards sharing your happiness with your family and friends. The point is fight for what you want. Never say die before you even started and don’t worry.
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