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7th September, 2008
Q: My boyfriend of three years is married. I went into the relationship with my eyes wide open. I became the third party willingly.
He is very honest about his status.
I want to know how to be a successful third party.
Recently a guy had shown interest in me. I am wondering whether I should accept his offer to be his steady.
My boyfriend has a wife and I see no reason why I can’t exercise my right to have another love like he does.
Torn
A: To be the other woman and successful at that seems to carry no moral bearings. Put it in another way, it is not accurate as far as moral is concerned. It’s the same as asking how to be a successful mistress.
When you are asked about how you can love two men at the same time, the question will sound rather foolish.
Your reply will probably be like you said, since he has a wife, you sure have the right to love another man, the way he does another woman, you.
I presume the third party should be faithful. But if the other side has been faithful, you wouldn’t have become a third party, his other woman. As it is, where is the logic to presume the third party should be faithful?
You don’t seem to know you have contradicted yourself.
What the third party craves for is none other than faithfulness. She hopes that one day the man whom she has been waiting for will choose her and then live a happy ever-after with her.
The greatest sacrifice she makes for the relationship is faithfully waiting for this unfaithful man.
Sure, she has the right to be like him, to love one more. Anyway if she could, she would experience less pain.
But then if there is another man worthy of her love in the first place, she wouldn’t have become a third party.
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